Walking Away!!

After many years of giving and giving a woman has the courage to walk away to leave it all and to take a plunge into the unknown and you wonder why? Why would she leave it all?? And as much as you try to make sense of it you just simply cannot except for the simple deduction that she has found someone else. The reality is that she hasn’t found anyone else and after a lifetime of all the nonsense she has finally reached her limit, everyone has a limit to how much they can take. In as much as we may say we forgive and we genuinely forget when you have had it, it all comes back like indigestion it all just rises and it haunts you daily and brings you so much discomfort and you have to face the fact that the man you loved unconditionally and genuinely was really unworthy or not who you made him out to be.

When you reach this stage it’s as though you wake up one day and you’re slapped across the face with a reality check. Realty can be an ugly companion as it’s the hardest thing to digest, to come to terms with how things really are when you had made things out to be totally different. Love, in essence, is blind as you simply lose all discernment and turn a blind eye to anything that would compromise the current state of happiness one is in. So the reality check is mostly painful because when you look back you see a long fault line that makes you see that the very foundation of the relationship was not solid and you may have wasted a long time trying and working for something that wasn’t meant to be.

Coming to terms with this truth is what destroys people and drives them to either stay, and continue on in their illusion as reality is just too hard to face, or be depressed and heartbroken as they torment themselves with every happy moment to ensure if it may have been real or not. Not many people have the capacity to let it go to appreciate the lessons they have learnt and the experience they have gained in a relationship and walk away. It is what it is and people are who they are! Looking for closure and trying to figure out what went wrong and why things went wrong is only opening a Pandora’s box and when it’s opened instead of gaining closure you unleash demons(figuratively) that you do not have the capacity to face.

I believe if any relationship fails no one person is to blame, it’s a 50/50 failure the best solution is to come to terms with the reality of the entire situation come to terms with the real people in the situation and not the one’s love made them out to be and when you’re done with your assessment see if the two real people are compatible if not walk away and take with you knowledge and experience and go work on your 50% what didn’t you do where do you need to reflect? If you do this you make progress with your life as an individual. The alternative is to look for closure discover new issues and torment your life and eventually move on and begin another disastrous cycle opposed to walking away and getting yourself right and ready for hopefully a better experience as you would have done some personal development and renewed your mind.

Walking away and working on yourself renews who you are and helps you to deal with any underlying issues you may have, In all honesty we all have underlying issues and we can only be worthy of better love when we deal with what is holding us back in our own lives. Relationships are not meant to be for people to find someone who completes them but rather for two complete individuals to complement each other. This I would say is the missing ingredient in most relationships we all looking for the right one instead of simply being the right one!