A little Insight

I am a lover of power and control an admirer of people and a friend to many I have an unfulfilled desire for success and a desire for acceptance which I know I may never receive but that doesn't kill the desire. I grew up very average with a beautiful mind, no one ever really understood me as a child but that never mattered I just knew greatness lay ahead and beginnings are not as important as the endings. I have always had an unquenchable thirst for independence and I strongly feel that no one is like me and I know very few will truly appreciate all I have to offer as people always see what lies on the surface; they always look at the cover browse the chapters but never get the whole story.

The society we live in can be very superficial at times and it is very easy to jump on the wagon of being all about the front. I am learning to be content with where I am in life and endure my slow and steady journey even though everyone around me seems to be flying to their destinations. I have a more profound appreciation for the direction my life is taking and I know my destination is in sight but patience is key to truly enjoy the efforts and hard work invested. The temptation is always present to jump a few steps but I know the jump will never truly be worth it. I have learnt that the road is hard and narrow to the top but it is attainable however the fall is even easier if one is not truly worth it or prepared for the rise. At present my journey requires me to keep my feet on the ground and not lose my head (wish me luck!)

Well I don’t always have wise words to say but whatever your doing do it well and do it whole heartily that’s how I roll and I haven’t been disappointed yet. 

Pride...........

By definition it is a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing or conduct. For me it’s a state of being, I never really saw myself as a proud person but I have come to realize that I have a very high regard for myself,  but it’s a seesaw, there is an up and a downside to it, it can be very helpful and well it can be a stumbling block . Pride has been highlighted in a negative stance for a very long time when it is a pro and con in itself and simply not all bad.

Pride is good to a certain extent and past that extent it is destructive, Healthy pride goes hand in hand with your values. If you have pride in yourself as a person you have self-respect and that will always keep you on the right track in life. Pride helps you acknowledge your value as a person and will prevent you from accepting anything that you deem unacceptable, it will enable you to stand up for yourself if you believe in you. In these cases I would say pride is necessary.

On the other hand pride can be a hindrance if it prevents you from getting all you can out of life. Proud people will never reveal their true feelings or reveal their true self as they feel it is a sign of weakness, they will fight till the bitter end knowing they are wrong but their pride will never let them admit it. Such individuals lose the diamonds of life whilst busy harnessing the rocks of pride, it blinds them totally. Alternatively pride can prevent people from getting assistance that they really need and you they up struggling through life as a result.

Pride is no asset if it prevents you from living the best life possible, nor is it of any value if it has you constantly kicking yourself with regret. Pride exists in everyone the degree in which it dominates is what may differ so be smart and only use it for your own benefit and never let it become your stumbling block in life. Take control over life and don’t let pride or any other emotion short change your life, always be progressive.

Bonne Anniversaire

I love French and I took up learning French two summers ago, thus my blog title meaning Happy Birthday. Another year has dawned upon us and I must say I am very excited by the arrival of 2013. As always a week into the year I celebrate my birthday which is exciting as my year pretty much starts all at once, I get to begin at the beginning. I also get to party hard and then attempt to be serious for the rest of the year, *fingers crossed*.

I have dubbed this year “the year of definition”, as I plan to make defining decisions and choices, I will be ending a lot of unfinished chapters in my life and starting new ones, I plan to deal with emotions I have packed away too at some point. I also plan on learning the art of being decisive I more or less know what I want but I stagnate a lot without really making a decision I also stand on the fence a lot and I feel it’s time a pick a side and go with it fully. This is the main aim and task for the year I need all the help I can get.

 I started living all on my own this year, well with the little ones of course. The prospects that lay ahead feel very exciting. It is as though I have been given a fresh sheet of paper to begin writing a new story on, there is a joy and an unwavering excitement in the atmosphere, I just feel so exhilarated and positively charged at present. I not making a list of resolutions this year but I have set my goals for the year and the near future and they will be guidelines for the year, so yet again no lists to follow but there will be a definite structure to it all.

So 2013 is upon us all I wish you all the best this year and so you know I’m crazy and very human I leave you jaw dropping images from my birthday celebrations.

i danced and i danced

i had great company my girl Sue

I hate sharing but Millie is my best friend so i gladly shared  our birthday week

The party continued for more than one day...........

there was more dancing............

At the actual party we were happy it was our bday........

home boy Gore making sure i was good

Party shots eish................

Birthday Divas had a bonanza

Had my babies to make the day extra special..........

The other woman in my life Lynda my Bff