In my journey through life, I’ve often found myself on the defensive — as though my back is constantly against the wall. I believe this stems from not having a strong support system growing up. I never truly had someone who saw the good in me, believed in my potential, or nurtured and encouraged me. As a result, I learned to view the world through a lens of self-preservation. I instinctively assume people are coming to attack, and my natural reaction is to protect myself and make sure they understand my point of view.
This mindset made me highly argumentative — a skill that served me well in my younger years, especially in debate, where standing my ground was rewarded. But as I’ve grown older, I’ve realized how much it limits me. I struggle to accept positive criticism because I often perceive it as a personal attack. I can now recognize that this is one of my greatest character flaws.
Still, I believe that knowledge is power. By acknowledging this pattern, I hope to conquer it. Recognizing our weaknesses is one of the most progressive things we can do. It’s so easy to look perfect on paper, when in truth, none of us are. We should never be afraid to admit when we’re wrong or imperfect — because perfection is an illusion.
Love yourself for who you are — flaws, mistakes, and all — and growth will come naturally.
One of the most important lessons i've learnt in life and hold close to keep my sanity is acknowledging that you are powerless in trying to control or influence people's ideas or views and thus reactions..........all the power you have lies in being able to control your own reactions and actions and this many a time can render the next person powerless when they do not get the typical and expected reaction from you!!
ReplyDeleteit is so true the only change we can succesfully initiate is from within!!thanks i really appreciate your input!!!
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